Love Letter: “Our Bodies Are Our Friends”

An octogenarian's advice on sex and sensuality.

View in browser|nytimes.com Continue reading the main story September 23, 2022 By Miya Lee "My motto is: Sex for one, sex for two, sex for all who desire it," wrote Diana de Vegh in her Modern Love essay, "Why Won't Anyone Help Me in This Sex Shop?" "And that emphatically includes those of us who are deep into old, old age." Ms. Vegh is a psychotherapist and an octogenarian. She believes that everyone should make more time for pleasure — advice that she also shares in the newest episode of the Modern Love podcast, "How to Feel Yourself." MODERN LOVE PODCAST Listen to the first episode of the new season of the Modern Love podcast. Brian Rea How to Feel Yourself At 83, and legally blind, a woman needs help with one of her favorite pastimes: visiting the sex shop. Subscribe Today We hope you've enjoyed this newsletter, which is made possible through subscriber support. Subscribe to The New York Times with this special offer. 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